A very important period in a child's life, the period of sexual development, requires special attention from parents.
The good physical and mental health of your child depends on the normal course of this process.
The processes of puberty consist in the activation and interaction of hormones produced by the pituitary gland, thyroid and sex glands.
At the age of 8-11 years for girls, and 10-13 years for boys, the prepubertal period begins, when the body prepares for puberty.
The first signs of the onset of the prepubertal period are: a sharp growth spurt, enlargement of the genitals in boys, gradual growth of the mammary glands in girls, as well as pubic hair and armpits.
The prepubescent period is replaced by puberty (in girls it occurs at 12-15 years, in boys - at 13-16 years). During puberty, the development of secondary sexual characteristics continues. The boys' voice begins to "break", facial hair appears, and emissions occur. Girls have their first menstruation at a certain point.
Most girls get their first periods between the ages of 12 and 14, but there are exceptions that, due to the individual characteristics of the child, are considered the norm of development.
At the very beginning, menstruation is usually not regular, but gradually the cycle normalizes (on average, menstruation comes monthly, after 28-30 days and lasts for 3-5 days). The regularity and pattern of menstruation are strictly individual. The duration of the cycle is calculated from the first day of the onset of menstruation to the first day of subsequent menstruation.
Parents are required to prepare the girl in advance for the onset of this feature of the female body. It should be said that at any moment spotting from the genitals may appear, and you also need to explain why they occur and what they are intended for. The most important thing is that this phenomenon should not be unexpected for a girl - the unknown is always frightening.
The arrival of the first menstruation should certainly be a joyful event in the family. Congratulate your child and have a conversation about how Mother Nature has given a woman an amazing opportunity to give new lives. You should not go into details, the story can be simple and understandable, for example: "Every girl has female organs inside her tummy. One of them is the uterus. It is intended for carrying a baby. In the uterus, the inner layer is renewed every month, and the old layer comes out in the form of such secretions."
During menstruation, it is especially necessary to observe hygiene (wash several times a day, change pads regularly). It is highly undesirable to wash while sitting in the bathtub, swim in ponds and pools during this period.
Have your child set up an individual calendar and mark the day of the beginning of menstruation in red and the end in blue. This way you can control the regularity and duration of critical days.
Be sure to consult a gynecologist if you notice signs of menstrual irregularities, such as:
- absence of menstruation before the age of 16;
- short (less than 21 days) or long (over 35 days) cycle;
- an unformed menstrual cycle (1.5 - 2 years, from the beginning of the first menstruation);
- short (1-2 days) or long (more than 7 days) menstruation;
- copious discharge and severe pain during menstruation.
Parents need to know that during menstruation the body is especially sensitive, its resistance to diseases is weakened, therefore, the child should be dressed warmly, protecting the pelvic area from hypothermia.
In most boys, the first emissions appear by the age of 13, normally this age varies from 12 to 16 years. Premature puberty is considered if its signs appear before the age of 10, and late - if a teenager of 13-14 years does not have secondary sexual characteristics. In such cases, it is necessary to consult a specialist.
After the onset of menstruation or emissions, a teenager begins to have sexual desire. A natural phenomenon for this period is masturbation (masturbation). This is a normal manifestation of developing sexuality in adolescence, and experts agree that masturbation is a natural way to release accumulated sexual energy. Parents need to treat this very carefully, with delicacy.
Do not bully the child, do not scold, do not make fun of him. This can become a severe emotional trauma that will develop into self-doubt, complexes, and neurosis, and as a result, such a child may have difficulties starting a family in the future.
At the first signs of a child's concern about sexual desire, switch his energy to some intense activity (playing sports, music, drawing, etc.).
An important point during puberty is your child's hygiene skills. Sebaceous and sweat glands, which are activated on the face, neck, back, armpits, bring a lot of trouble to a teenager. Inflammation in the form of blackheads (acne) appears on the skin, perspiration may increase. Regular washing and treatment of the skin with special products (lotions, face washes, deodorants, etc.) are necessary to prevent the appearance of skin rashes and regulate the work of the sweat glands.
Sexual life.
Early sexual activity cannot be considered the norm.
This, first of all, leads to increased release of sex hormones and accelerated puberty, which is the reason for the inhibition of the production of growth hormone.
Secondly, early sexual activity occurs at a time when the adolescent psyche is not yet capable of generating such a high feeling as love. And sexual intercourse at this age is mainly of a physiological nature. Teenagers tend to change partners frequently. A firm belief is being formed that love and loyalty are no longer in fashion among today's youth. All this has an extremely unfavorable effect on the future lives of young people.
The first sexual encounter in girls does not cause positive emotions. On the basis of painful experiences or sexual trauma, a negative attitude towards sexual activity can form.
The parents' task is to convey to the girl the fact that after she starts having regular periods, she can become pregnant even from a single, casual intimacy. And pregnancy at a young age is highly undesirable.
The fact is that such a pregnancy occurs with many complications and there is a very high probability of health disorders in the mother and child. On the other hand, early pregnancy completely ruins a girl's entire subsequent life. And artificial termination of pregnancy (abortion) is very dangerous in adolescence, often it causes a violation of reproductive function and gynecological diseases.
The optimal age for the birth of a child is 20-35 years old, at an earlier age a girl is neither biologically nor psychologically ready to become a mother yet.
It is very important to sensitize adolescents about sexually transmitted diseases (AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhea, viral hepatitis B and C, etc.).
Try to maintain emotional intimacy with children, of course, conflicts are inevitable, but still treat them with understanding and support your child's sense of self-confidence. Help the teenager to survive the worries, worries and fears associated with this difficult period.
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