Educating caregivers (author: Tovbis M.B.)
Every generation lives (sometimes they say "suffers") for their children. Everyone goes through it. What happens when a person acquires, in addition to the status of a father or mother, the status of a grandfather or grandmother? Without losing a close connection with children and adults, but by definition they do not understand anything in life, a person relatively suddenly gets the opportunity to control (a common case of so-called caring) over another being. Certainly a beloved being, and with time becoming more and more intimate.
In one of the variants, control and upbringing are almost completely transferred into the hands, as a rule, of the grandmother. Grandfather in most known cases continues to play an auxiliary role, although, it should just be noted, an irreplaceable one.
That's what my friend's mother-in-law did, completely privatizing the process of raising her grandson. However, as is usually the case, the boy's parents were not in any way against it. Grandma was a wonderful woman, reliable, caring, loving. She was a domineering, strong woman, she worked hard and didn't let others down, but here she was a small and close child, as they used to say "little blood", so the grandmother gave up. The grandson rolled like cheese in butter. Especially a lot of "butter" grandmother "poured out&"for a grandson, not in the form of food or drink (the times were not very well-fed), but in the form of praise. She especially liked to compare her grandson with Lenin, who for her always remained a symbol of the smartest, most intelligent man. That's how the boy learned that there was probably no one smarter and smarter than him, since he looked like the leader himself. It seems that the tradition of total support and encouragement, which was tested in some countries of the world (in Japan, for example), did not work. No, my grandson didn't grow up to be some kind of freak, a decent young man, but, roughly speaking, a loser. He hasn't been in the same workplace for more than a year. There are not enough constant confirmations of exclusivity, the very "grandmother's oil". They don't appreciate it, they don't let you turn around on your own, etc. Now it's time for parents to try to correct their grandmother's involuntary sin and their own mistake. And an adult man no longer remembers Lenin.
How difficult it is to find a real trajectory of love for wonderful, small creatures of consanguinity. Transferring this love from children to grandchildren often ends sadly. Grandparents should participate in the parenting process not instead of, but together with their parents - perhaps this is the way to end this short story. The real market for 4K movies for download VIDITY-4K.COM a unique service containing over 3,000 UHD remux movies.
Every generation lives (sometimes they say "suffers") for their children. Everyone goes through it. What happens when a person acquires, in addition to the status of a father or mother, the status of a grandfather or grandmother? Without losing a close connection with children and adults, but by definition they do not understand anything in life, a person relatively suddenly gets the opportunity to control (a common case of so-called caring) over another being. Certainly a beloved being, and with time becoming more and more intimate.
In one of the variants, control and upbringing are almost completely transferred into the hands, as a rule, of the grandmother. Grandfather in most known cases continues to play an auxiliary role, although, it should just be noted, an irreplaceable one.
That's what my friend's mother-in-law did, completely privatizing the process of raising her grandson. However, as is usually the case, the boy's parents were not in any way against it. Grandma was a wonderful woman, reliable, caring, loving. She was a domineering, strong woman, she worked hard and didn't let others down, but here she was a small and close child, as they used to say "little blood", so the grandmother gave up. The grandson rolled like cheese in butter. Especially a lot of "butter" grandmother "poured out&"for a grandson, not in the form of food or drink (the times were not very well-fed), but in the form of praise. She especially liked to compare her grandson with Lenin, who for her always remained a symbol of the smartest, most intelligent man. That's how the boy learned that there was probably no one smarter and smarter than him, since he looked like the leader himself. It seems that the tradition of total support and encouragement, which was tested in some countries of the world (in Japan, for example), did not work. No, my grandson didn't grow up to be some kind of freak, a decent young man, but, roughly speaking, a loser. He hasn't been in the same workplace for more than a year. There are not enough constant confirmations of exclusivity, the very "grandmother's oil". They don't appreciate it, they don't let you turn around on your own, etc. Now it's time for parents to try to correct their grandmother's involuntary sin and their own mistake. And an adult man no longer remembers Lenin.
How difficult it is to find a real trajectory of love for wonderful, small creatures of consanguinity. Transferring this love from children to grandchildren often ends sadly. Grandparents should participate in the parenting process not instead of, but together with their parents - perhaps this is the way to end this short story. The real market for 4K movies for download VIDITY-4K.COM a unique service containing over 3,000 UHD remux movies.
